10 Year Old Daughter Totally Out Of Control With Temper Tantrums
I have a 10 year old daughter who throws temper tantrums regularly (about 3-4 per week). She's been throwing temper tantrums since she was 5 but now they've gotten more frequent and worse in intensity.
When in that mode she kicks doors, throws things, screams and cries uncontrollably, she hits, or pulls hair or punches.
She only does this at home. At school she's actually quite the opposite. She won't ask questions in class and is very polite.
When in that mode she doesn't listen to anything. I tell her to go in time out but she doesn't listen, I tell her to stop hitting or kicking doors, but she doesn't listen.
In the past I've screamed a lot at home but now I'm going into my bedroom and I tell her that I need time to be alone and that when I'm done, I'll come out. But she doesn't like it; and kicks and bangs on my door.
Sometimes I take her Ipad away but that is only after the fact but I know this isn't the answer. She needs boundaries but she doesn't listen or abide by any boundaries when she's in destructive mode. My husband has tried the same things I have but she doesn't listen to him either when she's hysterical.
My son son (12) just stays out of the way when she's in this mode. I never know what is going to set her off.
Once she calms down she usually comes and apologizes but the emotional roller coaster is just too much. I've also suggested she hit the punching bag; she has one in her room. But like I said before nothing works at that moment. I've asked her (when she's calm) what would work for her to let the anger out, without breaking things and hurting people, but she says nothing that she needs to hit. At that moment her emotions are too strong and she can't seem to manage them.