23 Month Old Pushing, Pulling Hair Of Other Kids
I have a 23 month old boisterous son who is very active, explores tremendously through the day he spends at home with his Nanny.
Both my husband and I work full time. Our Nanny stays at home with my son and when the weather is nice they go to the park, feed the ducks near our house and do some activities together.
Over the past 1.5 weeks or so, my son has begun to push other children/toddlers, pull hair (mostly of girls) and sometimes even reach out for their face. I have noticed this happens when he is playing at an indoor play area and doesn't want to share a toy, or wants to get a toy that is in the hands of another child.
When he gets frustrated with us at home, sometimes he will lash out by throwing a toy on the floor and getting angry. Or he will reach out to bite.
We proactively stop him from hurting himself and others. We also have been trying to tell him that when he does these things, people get hurt and that if they feel hurt, they wouldn't want to play with him. We also explain how it hurts when he engages in these behaviors.
Otherwise, he is a happy, friendly, social and outgoing child. he eats well, sleeps well and is in good physical health.
I can think of a couple issues that may be going on in his life at this time that may be contributing to this terribly embarrassing and upsetting time with our son. We are from a multi-lingual family and speak 3 languages with him. Since he is at the pre-verbal stage, he may be finding it confusing to express himself.
Another possibility could be that he is teething (the 2 yr old molars). Lastly, and this might be a stretch, my son may be missing out on social interaction by not being at daycare and hence may have a lot more energy to expend/channel, that comes out through these behaviors at the play gym.
I really would appreciate some ideas on what may be going on and how I might combat/nip these behaviors at this time. I want my son to continue being happy and be able to deal with frustration without having to be aggressive.