Argumentative 12 Year Old
I have a 12 year old daughter who is an only child. She has been displaying challenging behaviour for over a year now (since High School). I don't want to paint a bad picture of her, because overall she is a good kid. However, she is so argumentative that it is actually causing me to be ill. I feel so incredibly stressed and weepy all the time because she is grinding me down.
Every single thing we talk about turns into an argument. She said the other day to me that "we don't get on, because we are nothing like each other". I replied that this was nonsense because different personalities get on fine together all the time.
I don't want our relationship to be like this, she is my only child and I love her to death but feel resentful of how she is making me ill at the moment. I want us to be close, to be able to enjoy one another's company such as going shopping together etc and to have an honest and open relationship.
I fear that the next four to five years are going to get worse if I don't seek help now. I don't know what to do, what to say.
Her father is very laid back and works long hours. She is a Daddy's girl but I think this is because she rarely sees him and he is not the one 'nagging' her all the time. He doesn't need to because he rarely sees what I see. I sometimes think "I wish he could take her to school and pick her up" just so I can be the 'nice hero' in her life and let him have to be the one to nag!
She has everything and doesn't want for anything. She is competitive and sporty and does well in school, so no problems there (although I suspect that the 'not wanting for anything' may be the problem!).
She can be very sulky if she doesn't get her own way and I feel losing her TV, phone etc just isn't enough anymore.
Please can you help me.