(East Sussex, England)
Hi, I need some advice on my sons behaviour.
He is 6 years old, and I feel like I am constantly nagging at him and don't get to enjoy any time I spend with him. I am either repeating myself to him trying to get him to eat or basically to do anything he should be doing or I am telling him off for being naughty and doing things I have asked him not to a million times already.
I have tried reward charts, I have tried a reward system where he earns coins for doing certain things in the day properly, and to punish I have tried the naughty step etc and I just feel nothing works.
It really upsets me that I don't enjoy spending time with him because I actually dread what he is going to be like.
Meal times are a nightmare if they are a proper meal, he can spend almost an hour emptying his plate, as I won't let him leave the table until it has all gone. Is this OK or should I just take it away? But then I feel I will face the consequences later when he starts playing me up because he's hungry or because I won't let him have the pudding he has been waiting for all day.
I suffer from depression and I find it hard to cope. I find it hard after he has been naughty and the moment has passed, to just get over what it is he has done/ how he has acted and get on with the rest of the day and act normal.
I am also separated from his dad, I have been since he was just under 2. I have a new partner and we live together. Every time my son goes to stay with his dad when he returns I have almost a week of hell with him playing up and not listening. I don't know what to do about it, he tells me his behaviour has been fine whilst he was with his Father, why does it feel like hes punishing me because he has had to comes back to my house?
My son has also been wetting the bed for about 3 years, it's not every night now but it worries me a lot, nothing specific happened at that time he had been dry for about 6 months and then it just started happening again. At the moment he uses the toilet before bed at about 7.30 and then I get him up to use it when I go to bed between 9.30-11pm. When my partner gets up for work at 4.30 am he is getting him up again then but sometimes he is wet already.
Can you help?