Being The Best Parents And Raising The Best Children
by Arooj Akbar
The sense of responsibility that overwhelms parents even before the baby is born is an indication of the desire of the parents to be the best for their children. I believe its easier to be the best if you just try the following tips:
- 1) Tired of arguing, yelling, repeating yourself, losing your temper, draining power-struggles? MY ADVICE: Don't do it! Do not admonish the children but instead impress upon them the good outcomes of the good behavior because the good outcomes creates a desire to be good.
- 2) Are you tired of all the crying and sleepless nights? Don't worry! My grandmother said: "It gets easier." And she was right. After every two months as the child grows up parenting becomes easier.
- 3) More than anything else, I've learned that every child is different. Do yourself a favor and don't worry about what other's kids and babies are doing by a certain age. For that matter, don't worry about your second child not matching what your first child did and when. The last thing any parent needs is more stress, so relax and go with the flow. Because stressed out parents are going to pressurize the children to be someone they are not!
- 4) Don't forget that kids learn by watching adults, particularly their parents. Make sure your behavior is role-model material. For example you'll make a much stronger impression by putting your own belongings away rather than just issuing orders to your child to pick up toys while your stuff is left strewn around!
- 5) As your child grows and begins to understand the connection between actions and consequences, make sure you start communicating the rules of your family's home. While you become clear on what behaviors will be punished, don't forget to reward good behaviors. Don't underestimate the positive effect that your praise can have — discipline is not just about punishment but also about recognizing good behavior. For example, saying "I'm proud of you for sharing your toys at playgroup" is usually more effective than punishing a child for the opposite behavior — not sharing. And be specific when doling out praise; don't just say, "Good job!" Just like smiles engender smiles, good also leads to good.
- 6) Do not hurt your child's self esteem! Rather try to build it. Praising accomplishments, however small, will make them feel proud; letting kids do things independently will make them feel capable and strong. By contrast, belittling comments or comparing a child unfavorably with another will make kids feel worthless. Let your kids know that everyone makes mistakes and that you still love them, even when you don't love their behavior.
- 7) Managing kids can be a challenge. Some days keeping the peace while keeping your cool seems impossible. But whether you're reacting to an occasional temper flare-up or a pattern of outbursts, managing your own anger when things get heated will make it easier to teach kids to do the same. Remember this tip while your children go through puberty.
- 8) For teenage children: Remember to give a teenager some control over things. Not only will this limit the number of power struggles you have, it will help your teen respect the decisions that you do need to make. You could allow a younger teen to make decisions concerning school clothes, hair styles, or even the condition of his or her room. As your teen gets older, that realm of control might be extended to include an occasional relaxed curfew.
- 9) An allowance can be a great way to teach kids money management skills. With an allowance, your child can learn how to make decisions, deal with limited resources, and understand the benefits of saving and charitable giving.
- 10) Talk with your kids about how your family can make small but meaningful contributions to those in need and the earth. My mother used to say that make a difference to this world by giving to this earth people that can bring a change for the better!
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