Daughter Failed Exams And No Motivation To Study
I am a mother of an 18yr old daughter who has failed her 12th exams, but has no interest towards studies.
She is very confident in herself, speaks her mind boldly, has great PR skills, and is helpful. She is overweight in spite of which she is confident. She does not pay much attention to dressing up. She is my only child.
From the beginning - even as a young child I have always had to be behind her to get on with her studies (be it her homework, projects, tests etc.) She never does anything on her own.
She is quite capable and has the capacity to grasp concepts well, but makes absolutely no effort. PTA would always be about her being very good/kindhearted, respectful towards teachers, but academically no concentration particularly during high school.
One of the teachers feedback was that my daughter thinks she knows her answers well, but that is not what is expected at the examiners level.
Till her 8th STD her grades were good (of course with my constant monitoring). During her 9th STD some guy proposed to her, which she confided in me. This started the downswing of her studies.
With great difficulty she managed to clear her 10th STD exams with a 72% pass. (She had extra tuition as well as help from me & my sister).
We got her admitted in a good college but she ended up with failing her 12th exams. Both my husband and myself have been assuring her that it is not the end of the world. There's always a next time. But the problem is she does not show any interest to complete her studies.
We have our own business which is doing well and able to support her financially in every aspect. In fact she has expressed her interest to ultimately join the family business. To which we have always told her that she has to complete her studies, make herself knowledgeable and join in later.
Another thing is that my husband and myself end up fighting because of her lazy attitude towards studies. He feels she will come around whereas I feel it will be too late.
I feel she manipulates my husband into believing that I am torturing her.(Initially I will be patient with her but as she drives me up the wall I end up abusing her physically.)
This is the point where my husband walks in and blindly supports her, which infuriates me to no end and we end up fighting like cats & dogs. She sits back and watches the whole scene impassively.