Where Are The EFT Tapping Points?I've drawn a diagram below to show you where the EFT Tapping points are and what sequence to tap them, and some examples of using EFT with children. If you missed the introduction page about EFT, emotional freedom technique, then read this article on Emotional Freedom Techniques first.
There are a few more complex ways of using EFT, and lots of people use extra tapping points, but you can't really get it wrong. If your intention is to clear an issue, and you have a clear focus on what you would prefer, then you can simply use the eft tapping points to tap out the old or unwanted thoughts or beliefs, and tap in the new! It doesn't even matter if you get it in the wrong order. If you want to delve deeper, then visit some of the other resources listed in the EFT Resource Section.
EFT For Kids: A Parent's ManualWe have a Manual for Parents to help you use EFT with your kids. This includes ongoing coaching and scripts you can adapt and use. You can find out more here: EFT For Kids: A Parent's Manual
Overview EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique SessionI'll give you examples and more detail below, but here's a quick summary of using the EFT Tapping Points.
Using Emotional Freedom Techniques
Setting Up Your EFT SessionChoose the issue that you want to use emotional freedom techniques on. I'll use examples from children, but you can easily choose something you as a parent are finding difficult, like: every time the kids start bickering, I feel myself getting ready to explode
We start by getting a setup statement that summarizes the issue - keep it short and sweet! We'll use a common issue many kids struggle with, having to give a talk in front of the class. Basically we want to use the EFT Tapping Points to tap out the distress and fear around public speaking and tap in affirmations about confidence.
Work out with the child how distressing they find their issue on a scale of 1 - 10 - With 10 being worst. You will come back to this to test how the issue is clearing.
The traditional EFT setup statement is:
I have found many children feel weird about saying that, particularly teenagers! I prefer to use something that is more related to the issue, or their inner wisdom, or something that is going to soften any resistance. So this is where the choice statement can be incorporated.
The Choice Statement is designed to start giving the subconscious mind a new message. It's empowering to the child because they start to realize they have don't have to stay stuck, they can choose a new reaction or response. Even if they don't currently know what that would feel like, you can play Let's Pretend, and they can imagine what it might be like to feel confident in class.
We can pair the issue with the new
statement, or choice statement. This can be leading into the affirmation, but it
may be something more along the lines of softening resistance.
Even though I am struggling with talking in public . . . .
Just tailor the statement to the age of the child and use language they can relate to. It might be something like:
The EFT Set Up PointBefore we move into the using the EFT Tapping Points, we first use the Set up Point to Tap activate our issue. The set up point is the Karate Chop Point on the side of the hand. We use this to activate and set the intention for clearing the issue using the setup statement from above. You tap it firmly 6 - 8 times (not hard!) using the fingers of the other hand, and at the same time saying your EFT set up statement 3 times:
~ Even though I'm scared to talk in front of the class, I love myself. (3 Times)
~ Even though I'm scared to talk in front of the class, I now choose to release this anxiety. (3 Times)
You only need to do the setup once, then we go on to do several rounds on the EFT Tapping Points.
The EFT Tapping Points SequenceYou now start doing rounds of tapping using the issue statement or variations of it, and using the choice statement sometimes too. There is no right or wrong way to do this, just follow your intuition and follow the energy of the child - if other stuff is coming up, then use those statements to tap with too. You can always make a note of something and get back to it.
After each round both you and the child take three deep breaths. Deep breaths are important to release the old and breathe in the new energy. It also shifts things physiologically.
After a couple of rounds of tapping, check for intensity - (The 1 - 10 scale). Repeat rounds of tapping on the EFT Tapping Points, until the intensity drops approx half then bring in some affirmations. I often do alternate issue statements then affirmations. The issue does not necessarily need to disappear all together. For example, sometimes a few butterflies before a talk can be useful to help us focus or practice!
Just be guided by how the child is reacting, if they want to take it all away then keep going. Of course you will have a test situation at some stage and something else may still arrise, simply tap that away afterwards.
The EFT Tapping PointsTap firmly but not hard 6 - 8 times on each of these points in order saying simple phrases about the issue. Don't widen the issue to cover off more feelings or or other challenges, you can run through the process again later.
Remember to breathe in between tapping rounds!
1) Inner Eyebrow (EB)
Example using EFTRefer to the diagram above for the location of each point.
Now check how the child feels (or yourself if you are surrogate tapping). If the level of anxiety is still pretty high, then repeat the same sequence several times.
When the level of anxiety has dropped by about half (measure on the scale of 1 - 10), then start tapping in the new belief or choice or affirmations.
I often alternate after the first round, for example:
Next Round . . . .
Continue with a couple of rounds on the EFT Tapping Points, and, Breathe and check the intensity. When the child is happy with the level (remember it does not have to be zero) Finish with a round of positives to anchor in the new belief or affirmation.
Creatively Use Emotional Freedom TechniqueOne great idea is using What If Statements. What ifs work really well for kids that find it hard to imagine being more confident, or are struggling to believe they can achieve something. A What If, opens up the door to possibilities:
What if I had the confidence of a movie star?
Be guided by the energy of your child. If they come up with something then build it in, it is always much better to go with the inner resources of the child than to impose your own words.
Affirmations and the EFT Tapping Points work brilliantly together. We have lots of information on using affirmations on these two pages.
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Your EFT Stories or Ask QuestionsI'd love to hear your stories or any questions about using EFT Tapping with Children. Your stories, ideas or questions will be inspirational for other parents. You are also very welcome to comment or reply to any other contributions.
EFT Tapping ResourcesEFT For Kids: A Parent's Manual
This is our comprehensive training manual for parents to teach kids EFT - There is a very good explaination, scripts, Magic Morning Tapping and Awesome Evening taps, and access to our forum and personalized scripts. Overview of EFT Tapping Points
Click here to to read our introduction page on how you can apply Emotional Freedom Techniques with Children.
The Tapping Solution DVD
They also run a Tapping Angel program, which aims to give the Tapping Solution DVD to organizations, such as prisons, hospitals, community groups or schools. If you would like to be one of their Tapping Angels, and distribute the DVDs, check out the program details on their site, The Tapping Solution.
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Is our home study course designed to help kids set goals, change behavior that is not serving them, envision the future they want, and achieve anything! If a child wants to work on a behavioral goal, Super Skills is a perfect tool, or they may want to learn a practical skill like giving talks in class. Emotional Freedom Techniques are one of the tools I recommend in SS4K, though there are heaps of other ideas and resources.
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