I'm currently in need of some help! I had my baby five months ago and since then my partners family have turned extremely negative and nasty towards me mainly but also my partner.
Before I gave birth I was very worried that me and my partner wouldn't bond with our baby so I strictly said I didn't want any visitors at the hospital until we were ready. Then when I had our baby we decided to invite my partners younger brother up to meet our bundle as he is a troubled teen and we thought he would feel privileged to meet her first. However when he turned up he had also brought my partner's Mum and Nan! I let that go over my head because then I thought there would be less visitors when we got home.
Well that was that, then before we had left the hospital we were getting nagged that they wanted to see the baby again. I simply replied they could see her when everyone else had met her because I didn't want to be unfair. Is this wrong? From that moment we were getting grief that we had banned them from seeing the baby.
Anyway to cut a long story short I let that go too and when I was ready for them to see the baby again on day 5, I expressed my feelings to my partner's Mum and said I'm not banning people I'm just trying to be fair. We thought that had
been sorted and arranged to meet at least once a week with my partner's Mum and Dad who are separated.
This happened for just four weeks then we lost contact as my partner returned to work and his family lost interest! A few texts were exchanged to arrange visits but nothing occurred.
Two months later it was my partner's birthday and his Mum and Dad asked him to visit them for presents, first he went to his Mum's and came home very upset and distressed. When he calmed down he told me his Mum had told him I was a control freak who had trapped him with a baby so I had a hold on him to not have a life!
Later that day He went to his Dad's to which the same was said. I had to know what I had done wrong so simply sent a text to both of them asking why they would ruin their son's birthday by doing that. Half an hour later they were banging on the door kicking off telling me to my face and after a big argument they left.
Now the Dad has walked away and said our daughter (his grand daughter) was just a baby to him :( and wants nothing to do with her! His Mum is acting like nothing has happened and has contact with us once a month (her decision).
I'm finding this really hard to forgive and forget because all I wanted was to bond with my baby.