Glad To Be Dad: A Call To Fatherhood
by Tim Myers
by Reviewer: Annie Desantis
We need more male role models to share their experience of what it means to be the primary carer - and stepping up and taking on more of the responsibility for parenting.
I was delighted to read Tim Myers' book, Glad To Be Dad: A Call To Fatherhood, which is packed with ideas useful for any parent. But more importantly, the world needs more parenting books written from a Dad's perspective.
Expanding Parenting Roles
The roles of Mom and Dad are not set in concrete, families have to be more creative and flexible about how they function.
We live in very fast changing times, the world of work is no longer 9 - 5 and there are many more opportunities for both Men and Women to work from home, so this can bring a lot more flexibility into parenting roles.
Many women want to continue their career path, and struggle with juggling parenting and work and in many cases still have the primary responsibility for managing the family.
I strongly believe particularly in the early years, our children need at least one of their parents - or a grandparent - who is able to give a great deal of one to one attention, and build the depth of relationship that best facilitates our child's development.
Tim's book looks deeply at what it means to be a Dad who is the full time carer. Stay at home Dad's are not Mom's. They need to discover what that means - the differences, how to get "job satisfaction" out of parenting, and to embrace the richness that comes from being around a small child for much of the day.
Wise, Insightful, Challenging
He weaves his personal journey with an unplanned baby in their lives, along with some very wise perceptions, challenges and thoughts about what it means to be Dad.
If you are a Dad who is the primary carer for your children - or taking more of an active role in child care this book will make you think and reflect on how to make that work - including a fantastic chapter of Do's and Don'ts. But all Dad's could do to read this book to expand your ideas of what being a Dad means.
Much of our parenting is learned from growing up in our own families - usually with Mom as the primary carer, and Dad largely going off to work outside the home. We have to consciously choose how we parenting, instead of parenting on automatic.
I would also recommend this book for women. We too need to expand our ideas of parenting to include our men more and to let go of our control of how the home has to run.
The book centers around little Shilly Shally and the very special relationship between father and daughter (and her older brothers). Written with humor, peppered with wisdom and even with a bit of a kick up the bum to challenge what it means to be a Dad.
I'd highly recommend this book, and to finish, a very moving quote from Tim which captures the essence of his journey as a full time Dad:".....with her in my arms, I realize, surprised, that I'm most who I am - my deepest, truest self."
Tim Myers not only writes books for adults - he is also writes stories for kids, having published at least ten children's books.
You can read more about Tim and his other books on his author page on Amazon:Tim J. Myers' Author Page