Helping My 8 Year Old Son Not Be So Argumentative And Headstrong
My son is 8 and seems to have a need to argue most things and feel like he is always right, getting the last word in. He many times ignores adult instruction including myself, his dad (less so), and his teacher.
His dad and I were divorced when he was 4 and I have been remarried for 2 years with 3 stepchildren, 2 of which are here on a part-time basis. He has bonded well with his Step-dad and is with us 60-70% of the time and the rest with his Dad.
He can be an intense little boy who is very bright and in his head most of the time. He prefers to be with adults and his need to argue, boss and counter alienates classmates who then don't want to play with him which hurts his feelings.
His Dad and I have always presented a united front and have been amicable all along. He seems to have a need to see the glass as half empty and I can't seem to help him see it differently.
He displays the same pattern over and over. Misbehaves, whines, won't listen, or argues, then receives consequences and is terribly sorry for his actions. I know it is a way of gaining my attention and strive to make sure he has positive time with me so that he doesn't feel the need to seek negative attention.
I am frustrated and feel very helpless that I can't seem to help him be happy and develop good social skills/behavior. Any words of help you can impart are much appreciated.
I just downloaded your EFT for Kids and am looking forward to sharing with him. I just started learning about it and have done it with him a few times which he seemed responsive to. I am eager to learn from your manual which is specifically for kids.
Many thanks for your willingness to reach out to a stranger across the Atlantic!