How To Avoid Saying NO With LOA Parenting
by Linz
(UK)
Dear Annie
I am a fully fledged believer and follower of LOA and thank the universe daily that I discovered it. I fully appreciate how positive thoughts influence our lives for the better and strive to think consciously at all times!
The one area I'm really struggling with though is when my children pester me for things I either cannot physically afford at that very moment or that I think are inappropriate (i.e cakes for breakfast!). I find myself having to say no and it goes against the grain in my mind - I then spend longer back-peddling with thoughts like "we can eat cakes for breakfast... we can eat whatever we like and only good can come of it!"
But I'm still unconvinced it's the right way to tackle the issue. My socially conditioned brain tells me children should have cereal or toast in the morning, not sweets. Yet some LOA philosophers actively teach to "do the thing that makes you happy". My children would surely be happy with M&Ms for breakfast instead of toast, and I would feel joy at seeing them happy. But all social indicators for parenting suggest this is a negative thing to do and my children need the right foods or I'm not being a good mother!!!
In LOA terms, should I push away those negative thoughts and go with what the children want or ARE there times when saying "no" is a positive response when raising kids?
Separate from the food issue is the money thing. I am actively telling myself "I am abundant. I have more than enough money. I have so much money, I give it away!" I have been much more giving towards the children, treating them to day trips much more frequently, and buying them treats with joy (flicking away any thought of saying "it's too expensive and replacing it with "of course! here's the money!").
But what happens when the children pester for things that are currently out of my price range? The universe is most definitely working on getting me this influx of cash and I'm hugely thankful for it, but if I only have £10 in my purse to last 4 days and my kids want to go on fun fair rides at £4 per time, how do I explain I don't have the money without ruining all my positive thinking in the process? The kids want a straight answer!!
I am really looking forward to your reply, and I'm really pleased I found this fantastic website!
L