Kindergarten Preschool Dilemna

Kindergarten Preschool Dilemna

by Wendy
(USA)

It seems no-one wants children to be free. My kindergarten child is at a school and many things are contrasting for us both.

I am starting to think I may be able to handle homeschool/unschool - would be a dream, but I could not claim it...I fear isolation for her..she has thrived this year because of the daily friends, but she is in line not allowed to speak to these wonderful beings she's found...what to do?

I live in a pretty open community but am not finding any LOA parent info...do you have resources for this area. Please guide me in any way that prompts you :o)

Peace to you for your site!

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Education & Law of Attraction - Part One
by: Annie Desantis

Hi Wendy,

Part One:

Thanks for your question, this is the kind of thing many many parents struggle with. We want to provide our kids with the best kind of education experience possible and often within a state system it falls far short of what we would like. I can totally identify with your dilemma, it is one that was very similar to mine, only my children were entering school after a wonderful preschool time.

I don't have any specific resources for your area, but firstly if you focus on the kind of friends, parents, pre-school or groups you are
wanting to attract to you, then it will come. If you put a lot of energy into how it is not what you want, and feeling there are no like minded
people around you, then you will not connect with the people you really want.

You will find lots of people that will be on your wavelength but may not call it law of attraction or unschooling. So just be open to connecting
with like minded people. In terms of organizations, check out Steiner or Waldorf I think you call it in the States - their approach to education is much more spiritually based and you may resonate with that more.

In terms of doing it yourself - the basis of unschooling - which really fits in well with the Law of Attraction, is free play. Play is how kids learn. Give your child lots of opportunities to experience different things, follow what she is interested in, let her get dirty etc. It is much easier with preschoolers as we don't tend to get caught up in having to cover a curriculum. And with homeschooling there are lots of different
curriculum if you wanted to do something more formal. Check the requirements in your state, as they do differ.

There are heaps of resources online for activity ideas, and support too.

Now to be a "good" LOA parent (there really is not any such thing!) you don't have to go down the road of unschooling. What is more important, is you tuning into YOU, and following your passions. The more you model to your daughter how to tune back in, and connect with your spiritual source (whatever that means to you) then that is the best kind of learning for her.

You don't have to provide a perfect life for her to flourish. The more you are tuned in, and the more fun you have, the more you teach her. So from that perspective, if you are interested and excited about unschooling or homeschooling, then
follow your passion.

Kids can thrive just as well in a strict formal old fashioned education system if they know how to tune in and find joy. You can do heaps of
things at home that are fun and follow their interests to kind of counter balance what you are unhappy about. And remember, if you are unhappy, you are creating that around her. She will pick up on that and react.

Part Two Follows . . . .

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Hi Wendy, Part One: Thanks for your question, this is the kind of thing many many parents struggle with. We want to provide our kids with the best kind of education experience possible and often within a state system it falls far short of what we would like. I can totally identify with your dilemma, it is one that was very similar to mine, only my children were entering school after a wonderful preschool time. I don't have any specific resources for your area, but firstly if you focus on the kind of friends, parents, pre-school or groups you are wanting to attract to you, then it will come. If you put a lot of energy into how it is not what you want, and feeling there are no like minded people around you, then you will not connect with the people you really want. You will find lots of people that will be on your wavelength but may not call it law of attraction or unschooling. So just be open to connecting with like minded people. In terms of organizations, check out Steiner or Waldorf I think you call it in the States - their approach to education is much more spiritually based and you may resonate with that more. In terms of doing it yourself - the basis of unschooling - which really fits in well with the Law of Attraction, is free play. Play is how kids learn. Give your child lots of opportunities to experience different things, follow what she is interested in, let her get dirty etc. It is much easier with preschoolers as we don't tend to get caught up in having to cover a curriculum. And with homeschooling there are lots of different curriculum if you wanted to do something more formal. Check the requirements in your state, as they do differ. There are heaps of resources online for activity ideas, and support too. Now to be a "good" LOA parent (there really is not any such thing!) you don't have to go down the road of unschooling. What is more important, is you tuning into YOU, and following your passions. The more you model to your daughter how to tune back in, and connect with your spiritual source (whatever that means to you) then that is the best kind of learning for her. You don't have to provide a perfect life for her to flourish. The more you are tuned in, and the more fun you have, the more you teach her. So from that perspective, if you are interested and excited about unschooling or homeschooling, then follow your passion. Kids can thrive just as well in a strict formal old fashioned education system if they know how to tune in and find joy. You can do heaps of things at home that are fun and follow their interests to kind of counter balance what you are unhappy about. And remember, if you are unhappy, you are creating that around her. She will pick up on that and react. Part Two Follows . . . . Annie D

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Education & Law Of Attraction - Part Two
by: Annie Desantis

Part Two . . . .

The socialization aspect of homeschooling is one of the big issues for parents. I am sure you will find a support group not too far away you could link in with. Certainly there is lots of online support and forums and you may find people on there who are close by.

Kids do need lots of social experiences, but they don't have to be in a school setting. The local park will have other Moms and kids, take swimming lessons, or Mom and Daughter dance classes. Put up a notice at the library to have a preschoolers morning tea once a month or weekly at home days.

Think outside the box of how you can create situations that give your child social experiences. Visit an old folks home or hospital. Go to the mall, and let her talk to people - we often keep our kids close and drag them shopping without giving them any time to experience it
themselves.

There are heaps of opportunities to mix with a wide variety of people right in your neighborhood. When you think about it schools or
preschools are not a natural way of socializing. In traditional cultures, kids are surrounded with people of all ages, they play with kids of all
ages, not just three year olds. They can go to aunts and grandfathers to learn things or for a cuddle or story.

We have put kids in school so parents have the freedom to work as much as for education. Education is not something that only happens
at school. Life is education. Everything is a learning experience!

Your daughter is very lucky to have a Mom who is wanting to encourage her to be the amazing connected little girl she is. Kids already are tuned in, we just tend to damp it down with our rules and worries. So just follow the fun - hers and yours and you can't go wrong!

Wishing you a Wonder-filled Christmas,

Annie Desantis

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Part Two . . . . The socialization aspect of homeschooling is one of the big issues for parents. I am sure you will find a support group not too far away you could link in with. Certainly there is lots of online support and forums and you may find people on there who are close by. Kids do need lots of social experiences, but they don't have to be in a school setting. The local park will have other Moms and kids, take swimming lessons, or Mom and Daughter dance classes. Put up a notice at the library to have a preschoolers morning tea once a month or weekly at home days. Think outside the box of how you can create situations that give your child social experiences. Visit an old folks home or hospital. Go to the mall, and let her talk to people - we often keep our kids close and drag them shopping without giving them any time to experience it themselves. There are heaps of opportunities to mix with a wide variety of people right in your neighborhood. When you think about it schools or preschools are not a natural way of socializing. In traditional cultures, kids are surrounded with people of all ages, they play with kids of all ages, not just three year olds. They can go to aunts and grandfathers to learn things or for a cuddle or story. We have put kids in school so parents have the freedom to work as much as for education. Education is not something that only happens at school. Life is education. Everything is a learning experience! Your daughter is very lucky to have a Mom who is wanting to encourage her to be the amazing connected little girl she is. Kids already are tuned in, we just tend to damp it down with our rules and worries. So just follow the fun - hers and yours and you can't go wrong! Wishing you a Wonder-filled Christmas, Annie Desantis

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