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Make My Kid A Positive Kid

by Tatiana
(TX, US)

Hi Annie,
I just began to read about the Law of Attraction and I being follow the steps in order to make sure I live a happy and health life and the way I want to live.

But, there is one thing that I need to get help on it and that's how to make my 8 years old stop complaining about everything he doesn't have or get and to look around and be thankful for all he has. I keep telling him how important it is to not talk negatively about his life, but I don't know if he is just too young to get it or if I am doing something wrong.

Any advice on how to introduce the Law of Attraction to my son when he already has a negative mind?

Please help me on this.

Thank you,


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Positive Kids Need Positive Parents - Part One
by: Annie Desantis, Parent Coach

Hi Tatiana,
Thank you for submitting your parenting question, it is a great one and something many parents ask me about. Congratulations for trying to bring the law of attraction principals into your life as you raise your son.

You actually can't MAKE a child be positive, or anyone else for that matter! Our kids learn most by seeing what we do. If you have
daily practices that focus on appreciation and being thankful, then he will soon learn them too.

But if you are telling him off for NOT being positive or to stop complaining, you are actually increasing the energy around negative thinking! Pointing out he is wrong in complaining is not that helpful for him to learn to do something differently.

What we can do though, is use all sorts of games and processes with kids to help them practice
being more positive. It actually has more of an impact if you play these things when your kids are already feeling positive. Powering up the
positive energy when it is emerging, has far more impact than criticizing him when he is being grumpy and unappreciative.

But more importantly, pay attention to how YOU are feeling and when you notice you are getting irritated when he is complaining - then show him what you do to make yourself feel better. You can be very obvious about it by saying something like "You know, I am finding myself getting annoyed when I hear you complaining about not getting more stuff. And I don't want to feel like this, so I am going to play a game that helps me feel good about my life." "Do you want to play with me?"

Whether he does or not is irrelevant - he will have learned by your example, and most importantly you will start to feel better instead of feeling irritated with him!

You can play things like:
Ten things I love about you . . . .
Ten things I love about my life . . . .
I'll race you to find the biggest I love you
(I love you more than stars in the sky . . . more than the number of macdonalds fries . . . . more than all the M & Ms in the world!)

You can say, "I'm going to take myself off until I am feeling happier and I am going to do something that makes me feel good."
Then go and have a bath, play in the garden, go for a walk. Make sure you come back afterwards and say, I feel so much better, I love you soooooo much.

Part Two Follows . . . .

Positive Kids Need Positive Parents - Part Two
by: Annie Desantis

The more you focus on his attitude having to change the more you are sending your attitude down the drain! We can introduce lots of positive
games and processes into our daily life - like over the dinner table. But we can't make our kids take part or do it the way we want. He will likely come round though when he sees YOU having fun and being silly.

Actually that is the quickest way to shift things for an eight year old - be silly! The more you act up and make things fun the quicker he will start laughing.

You can even exaggerate his stories, so long as you are doing it in a fun way, not a critical way - Stick on a silly hat, and moan and groan, "Oh no, I don't have any toys, no one ever gives me anything, there are so many things I
Then switch it - "I know, I can make a vision board of all the things I want"

Turn his wanting into something that is positive. "Isn't it wonderful that there are so many things that are exciting and new, why don't we make some vision boards to attract those things into our life."

Then cut things out of magazines, write affirmations, use glitter and power words and make posters that celebrate all the amazing things that are out there that we might like.

Visit our Mind Movies page to find out more about making vision boards and mind movies with kids.

Then you can also introduce the concept that being appreciative of what we have can add powerful energy to what we are wanting. But not if we are feeling we HAVE to be grateful, that we are being GREEDY or discontented if we want more. We want gratitude to be something we are celebrating, not something we are doing dutifully.

Don't make this hard work! You can't force positive feelings or appreciation. But the more fun you have and the more you demonstrate to him how you shift yourself to feeling better, then that is the most powerful way to teach your son.

Wishing you JOY,
Annie D :)

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