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Misbehaving Children: Are there really naughty children?

Ever Wondered:
  • Why are my children misbehaving?
  • Are children deliberately naughty?
  • What can I do about bad behaviour?
  • Is my child's behaviour normal?
  • How can I deal with misbehaving children?

I often have parents tell me they find it really hard to deal with misbehaving children. But are there really naughty children? Here's an idea for you to entertain: Children have no intention of being deliberately naughty!

misbehaving-children Parents also say - he's just trying to get attention! Of course he is! The reason children misbehave is they have unmet needs. Difficult child behaviour such as tantrums or acting up, are your child's way of telling you they are unhappy or angry. Many children start to learn that throwing a tantrum is the only way they get attention. And even negative attention is better than none!

Parent's Management of bad behaviour

So your job as a parent is to make sure they are getting their needs filled in positive, constructive ways, not getting their attention by behaving badly. The best way you can do this is to reinforce their good behaviour. Make sure you spend plenty of quality time reading, playing and talking to your children. Parents sometimes think they are spending all their time doing things for their kids because they have washed clothes, cooked meals, got them off to school etc. Sure kids need those basic requirements, but most importantly they need their spiritual and emotional needs met and they need to be extended and stimulated mentally.

Numerous studies show children who have lots of adult conversation, are read stories, and play lots of games with their parents, excel at school, and are better developed socially. If you have misbehaving children maybe they are bored and not being challenged? So you can tell them you know they are really capable get them involved in something with you that encourages them to ask questions, or to master a skill. Helping you cook, measuring quantities, using tools, reading labels or recipes are fantastic learning opportunities.

Older children can take responsibility for developing a set of instructions for using the DVD player (many of us adults find that a challenge!). My children had to prepare two meals a week each from the time they were 12 years old. We had some basic nutritional guidelines, but they tried out all sorts of recipes, and basked in the appreciation of the rest of the family. Bad behaviour at the dinner table was never an issue when they were the chef!

Families that play and communicate together are far better equipped to weather the challenges of family life. Focus on building strong relationships with your children rather than emphasising their bad behaviour.

Child Behaviour = Family Barometer

The other challenge I would offer you when you have misbehaving children is to ask yourself what is going on with you? Our children act as a mirror for what is happening around them. If you are out of alignment, then your child will pick it up quicker than anyone. unruly child behaviour is often more about the disharmony in the home, a barometer if you like of what is happening. Maybe you and Dad had a fight last night, maybe you are frustrated with your job, maybe you are not doing the things that feed your soul? bad-behaviour-father-son

So showing them how you get yourself back on track is the most powerful lesson in managing bad behaviour. Tell them how you feel, when you are frustrated or angry, your are showing them their feelings are not bad or wrong, they are just telling them something is out of whack! Then model to them what you do when you are grumpy - take a walk, have a bath, play some music, do a grumpy dance. Then you come back and say I'm starting to feel better now, I love you so much - let's have a cuddle and read a story or I need a hug. They learn from what you are doing to handle strong feelings.

You will get far more satisfaction out of parenting when you have as much fun as possible and reinforce your children getting attention in positive ways. Make sure they know, their bad behaviour is nothing to do with how much you love them. NEVER NEVER make compliance a condition of your love and approval. Use their challenging behaviour as a signal to you that they have unmet needs and find ways to encourage their good behaviour.

New Take On Misbehaving Children

Misbehaving children - think about it, a MIS-take or MIS-behaving, is just something that has missed. So your job as a parent is to help your child to get in alignment with what they want, and find positive ways to get it. And to understand that naughty children, who are playing up for attention do need attention. Honor their feelings, and help them find ways of getting what they want without bad behaviour.

Coaching to help deal with bad behaviour

Throughout the site you'll find tips to inspire or support you in disciplining children with love and respect, and empowering your children to develop their internal guidance and self discipline.

You can also get your questions answered online with our mini-coaching service, Ask Annie.

If you'd like more detailed coaching and indepth support and a like-minded community, I'm really excited that our LOA Parent Coaching Membership site is now up and running.

What do Members get?
We have an incredibly supportive community at LoaParentCoach.com. The coaching, teleseminars and courses are the hub of the training and coaching, but the forum is the centre of our community. Members can also have their own blog and web page so can talk about or promote anything they like.

Some examples of my Parent Coaching Audios that are available free to Members:

Disciplining Children - Why do Children Misbehave?
In this Audio I talk about what children need, and how you can focus on teaching your children to get what they want in positive ways, rather than attracting negative attention through bad behavior.

Negotiation with Teenagers
This Audio focuses on negotiation, resolving conflict, and communicating with teenagers.

Teenage Behavior
This Audio answers questions from readers about communicating with teenagers.

Parenting Law of Attraction Kids
Should I let my kids run wild?
How do I balance what I want without crushing my child's spirit?
Am I setting up negative experiences for my child?
This Audio assists you to create the kind of relationship you want with your children.

The audio library in our membership is growing all the time in response to questions from parents, and recorded coaching calls and tele-seminars. Come and check us out!




More Help with Misbehaving Children

Misbehaving Children and Discipline
For more ideas on handling misbehaving children read my article on disciplining children.

Teenage years can be a delight and a challenge for many parents. Heres some ideas on handling some of those tricky times!
Negotiation with Teenagers

Teenage Behavior
This Audio answers questions from readers about communicating with teenagers. You can listen to it from the page.

Child Development
One of the keys to understanding child behaviour, is understanding what is appropriate for the child's age. Click here for an overview with links to more in depth stages.




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