Naughty At School
My 7 grade kid is naughty at school even though he is smart.
It is frustrating as a parent when our kids misbehave at school. Our pages on misbehaving children will give you a bigger insight into why kids misbehave and lots of ideas to help them. But in a nutshell, kids act up when they need attention, or stimulation or they need more one on one input to help them learn to be self motivated and to achieve tasks.
But when it comes to school, we have to remember there is usually one teacher to approximately 20 children in a small class, and many classes are bigger. That means each child could only get a maximum of 3 minutes per hour individual attention. That is without the teacher actually doing any teaching or any other activities.
So realistically we simply can't expect our teachers to be able to meet individual needs. So what happens when a child is bored or needs some attention? They play up to get it. That will pretty much guarantee some attention. But of course that ends up being negative.
For teachers to manage large groups of kids there is a lot of emphasis to help kids to conform, do as they are told, and to self manage. Many kids simply do not thrive in that kind of situation.
It is not your job to sort out what happens in school, the teacher has to work with that, but you can help your son by making sure he gets heaps more stimulation and one on one attention at home. Particularly since he is bright, help him to explore and learn about the things he is interested in. The more positive learning experiences you can give him at home, and the more you encourage him to research and find things out, the more he will learn to be more self motivated at school.
Of course you want to support the teacher in helping her to teach him that disrupting the class is not acceptable, but you also want to help him to find better ways to enjoy learning and to get his need for attention met in better ways.
Part Two Follows . . .