Are You Struggling With Naughty Kids?Need some help with child discipline or how to deal with bad behaviour? We have loads of tips for better child behavior management here - so take a deep breath, make a cup of tea and take some time out to re-group.
When kids mess up and break something or hurt someone because they were not mindful enough of the effects of their actions. So our job as parents are to call a halt calmly and help them to work out how to fix the situation.
If we get angry and start handing out punishments, we do nothing to teach our kids to to develop empathy or to take responsibility for their actions.
Kids who are acting up because they have learned to get attention with fighting and yelling need different strategies for child behavior management.
So if your child seems to have a pattern of bad behaviour, then you need to look at what the message is underneath. More than likely they are not actually naughty kids - they are trying to let you know something is not OK.
What Can You Do About Bad Behaviour?
The best way you can do this is to reinforce their good behavior. Make sure you spend plenty of quality time reading, playing and talking to your children. Parents sometimes think they are spending all their time doing things for their kids because they have washed clothes, cooked meals, got them off to school etc. Sure kids need those basic requirements, but most importantly they need their spiritual and emotional needs met and they need to be extended and stimulated mentally.
And you are the BEST person to do that. Way better than TV, way better than teachers or school, way better than the Internet.
Numerous studies show children who have lots of adult conversation, eye contact, are read stories, and play lots of games with their parents, excel at school, and are better developed socially.
So if you have naughty kids, maybe they are not getting enough positive interaction with you, or not being challenged and extended?
Kids need positive attention WITHOUT having to earn it by being good.
Encourage ResponsibilityYou can let them know that you believe they are really capable of so much more, get them involved in something with you that encourages them to ask questions, or to master a skill.
Instead of thinking you are too busy to give them attention - get them involved in what you are doing. Helping you cook, measuring quantities, using tools, reading labels or recipes are fantastic learning opportunities along with heading off bad behaviour because you are giving them your attention.
My children had to prepare two meals a week each from the time they were 12 years old. We had some basic nutritional guidelines, but they tried out all sorts of recipes, and loved getting all the appreciation from the rest of the family. Misbehaving children at the dinner table was never an issue when they were the chef!
Older children can take responsibility for developing a set of instructions for using the DVD player (many of us adults find that a challenge!) - or solving a problem with household storage. You might be surprised how skilled your teenager is!
Families that play and communicate together are far better equipped to weather the challenges of family life. Focus on building strong relationships with your children rather than emphasising their bad behaviour and you will be less likely to be tearing your hair out with naughty kids!
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